Meeting the Little Buddy

On November 26th we got to see the first glimpse of baby ingram.

And the little baby stole our hearts!

How could we possibly love you as much as we do already!?

SOOOO in love with this little buddy...

We even saw your little arm move! It was as if you were waving to us.

And we saw your big ol' head and your teeny tiny foot!

I weighed in at 125 lbs (3 lbs up from my pre preg weight) with my blood pressure at 107/67 and your heartbeat at 143bpm.

You are absolutely perfect!

And so far, everything looked great with both you and i!

You were only about the size of a grape on your first ultrasound with little arms and legs - but you had a wonderfully strong and amazingly beautiful heart - we watched it flutter and it sure made ours do the same.

On January 9th we had our second dr appointment where we listened to your heart beat again.

It was so strong, and we could even hear you doing summersaults!

We both were crying tears of joy... there is nothing that prepares you for hearing that little beat-beat of your babies heart... i cant even image actually meeting you face to face!

I weighed in at 133.8 lbs (up a total of 10 from my pre preg weight) with my blood pressure at 106/70 and your heartbeat at 156bpm.

Your daddy and i couldnt be more excited!

We are so blessed!

We had another ultrasound last week on January 21st and although I don't have a picture from it (I was so amazed at looking at you on the screen that I forgot to ask for a print out!!!) you had little bones and you were much bigger than last time :) 

My "cervix" is looking good, not as long as a normal one, but it's long enough for now!

They'll measure it again on February 5th and this time, I'll make sure to get a print out of you :) 

I still cannot believe that there is a baby growing inside of me!

A little baby that Matt and I, with Gods wonderful grace, created!!!

If I think about it too much I start crying... So I won't go into detail...

It's just purely a miracle that you are in there, and soon you will be out here, in our arms!!!

Little baby bump!!! (Excuse the pj's ... and the tang... And the trash can)

12 Weeks

3 Months Along - 12 Weeks! 

The baby bump is totally here to stay! (for at least the next 6 months or so...)

How Far Along: 12 weeks, 2 days

Weight Gain/Loss: +3 lbs more, totaling 128lbs

Maternity Clothes: No, but i really need a belly band because my jeans wont button.  Ive been doing the hairband trick, but i just feel a little exposed. 

Sleep: Really good actually!!! Im still on my stomach tho... :/

Best Moment This Week: Cleaning out the sewing corner as i get ready to make it into a nursery!

Miss Anything: Still missing soda... and jeans! I used to love jeans, and now i cant stand them...

Movement: not yet...

Food Craving: My breakfast almost every morning is sourdough toast with cream cheese, tomato slices and lemon pepper.... mmmmm

Showing: Yes! Little buddy is making my belly grow!

Gender Prediction: Matt says girl, i say its a baby

Labor Signs: No, praise the Lord!

Belly Button: Out-ish.... it is still in, but its moving out... and you can push it back in, but it pops back out... weird!

Wedding Ring: On

Mood: Fabulous! Vacation in 2 days!

Weekly Wisdom: So happy to have made it to 12 weeks!  Baby ingram is strong and healthy!

Looking Forward To: Christmas in 2 days, spending time with Nina and being on vacation!  Cant wait to spend 2 weeks without work with my hubby, for him to see his buddies at Gene and Robins wedding, and for us to start this new year together!

Side Notes: 

Between Christmas gifts and personal purchases, we have a car seat, a swing/bouncer combo, a bedside cosleeper, some clothes, a changing armiore, a dresser, a crib, a boppy, a bumbo, a clip on highchair, a sleep sheep, a Bob Stroller and a breast pump!

Even if we dont get anything else but diapers, we will be set!

8 Weeks

Two Months Along - 8 weeks!

 The bump has grown just slightly from 1 month to 2!

How Far Along: 8 weeks, 5 days

Weight Gain/Loss: +3 lbs, totaling 125lbs

Maternity Clothes: No, although after 5pm i need loose pants! BLOATING!

Sleep: Better than my first few weeks, but this persistent cough ive had and the rib pain due to coughing sure keeps me up!

Best Moment This Week: Seeing baby on the ultrasound! It was simply amazing!

Miss Anything: Soda and coffee... i just want a sip!

Movement: lots of gas... hehe... does that count?

Food Craving: Mexican food, Fried food, french fries, mac & cheese, grapes, toast and the occasional milkshake.

Showing: Sort of, but im definitely bloating, its actually quite impressive.

Gender Prediction: Per the heart rate, im told by current mommas its a girl?

Labor Signs: No, praise the Lord!

Belly Button: In

Wedding Ring: On

Mood: I cry a LOT, but all happy tears.  You'd have to ask matt to get the honest answer.... :)

Weekly Wisdom: Having this baby inside me is so surreal - cannot wait until 12 weeks, ill feel a little more sure of everything.

Looking Forward To: Telling all our family at christmas time! And showing our little buddy's first picture to everyone!

Side Notes: 

Nausea is not fun, but i havent thrown up yet.

My farts smell terrible - so not attractive i know, but its truth, and the truth sucks sometimes.

Jenny Mcarthys book "Belly Laughs" recommended to me by my bff from childhood is So. Spot. On.

Constipation... im eating... but where in the world does all that food go??? Cause it aint comin out!

AND IM A LADY!!! THESE THINGS ARENT SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN!

I took out my belly ring... it might be the strangest looking thing ever... 

We're Pregnant!!!

So yes, i know this is late... as im now 16 weeks along.

But i kept a journal so that one day (today apparently) i could share my pregnancy journey with the blogging world!

So, lets flash back to October, the 27th to be precise.

There i was, lying on my sisters couch in california.  I was 2 days late and i had bought a pregnancy test the night before.  However, i had left it in my sisters room with my suitcase and other belongings.  I really and i mean REALLY had to pee, but i didnt want to wake her up.  Thank goodness my little nephew did that for me :).  He was talking just enough that she could hear him, so she got up and went to see what was up.  I asked if i could grab the test, then ran to the potty, did the pee-pee dance as i was struggling to get the dang child proof wrapped stick open, and finally gave it a good 5 steady seconds of stream.

Then, because watching the stick for 2 minutes is torture, i left it on the tub and went to look at myself in the mirror, because that seemed like a better thing to stare at then my pee stick.  2 minutes (+30 seconds more just for good measure) had passed and i went to look at it and saw.....

A BFP!!!!! (Big Fat Positive for all you non-TTC [trying to conceivers])

Matt and i did it!!! On our first round of the wonder drug Clomid!

We made a baby!!!  With the grace of God, we were pregnant!!!!!

I could not believe it.

So right then and there, on the toilet rug, i knelt down and said a prayer.

I thanked Him for this amazing blessing, and asked that he keep the little baby healthy and inside of me for as long as it needed to be.

So i went back to the living room, grabbed my phone, and called matt.

No, i didnt tell him we were pregnant over the phone... but calling him just seemed like the right thing to do!   Just hearing his voice was so exciting.  We talked about his morning and my night and then said our goodbyes.

Britt came out a little later on and she had heard me sniffling on the couch as i was talking to matt.  Sniffling from crying yes, but crying tears of JOY!

So, with her only knowing of my tears, she prepared herself for cheering me up... but then, i showed her the stick and she couldnt believe it!

It was pretty much a true California Girl moment filled with "Shut Up!?!?!" and "No Way?!?!" and "Oh my Gosh!!!" 

It was very exciting being able to say it out loud for the first time! 

Im Pregnant!

A few hours later i took my first "pregnancy picture" = fabulous idea from my brother in law Heath!

Somehow i had totally skipped over that idea... leave it to the man who has 8 kids to remember something that important :)

little baby is 4 weeks along here :)

But what i couldnt wait for was telling Matt!

My wonderful husband, my best friend in the entire world, was going to be a daddy!

He had wanted this even before i did.

Back when i had my last surgery, and the doc said it was time to start trying, i was nervous and didnt know if i was ready for that yet.  Not Matt, he was ready.  And now the time had come!

I had all these elaborate plans in my mind (courtesy of pinterest) of how i would tell him when i found out.  But i was never planning on being 16 hours away from him when i found out!

So, i had to improvise - i took my sis with me to go onesie shopping.

We made a quick stop to see my dad and i told him the good news.

More tears of joy!  He is excited to have another grandbaby.

Then we left, and went to....

BabiesRUs, here we come!

I found an adorable little tan onesie for little baby ingram that read "Daddys Little Star".

It was perfect for the little baby.

Then i found a bedtime board book entitled "On the Night You Were Born"

I read the first page, then tried to read it aloud to brittney, but i couldnt get the words out audibly through all my tears!

"On the night you were born, 

the moon smiled with such wonder

that the stars peeked in to see you

and the night wind whispered, 

'Life will never be the same.'

Because there had never been anyone like you...

ever in the world"

It was perfect for the little baby.  

Then i found a "Congratulations Daddy" card to go along with the book and the onesie.

It was perfect for the little baby.  

They were all perfect for the little perfect baby.

I put it all in a gift bag and counted down the minutes to when i would see matt at the airport.

I got off the plane, had a much needed toilet break where i decided to pee on the 2nd stick in the box just to make sure it was still a plus sign (thank you Jesus, it was), and headed out past security to the passenger arrival area.  As always, he was the most handsome man waiting in the boise airport.  

We hugged and then i led him back over to the waiting area chairs and gave him my gift bag.

He reached in and grabbed the card, pulled the card just enough out of the envelope that he could read the "Congratulations Daddy" part, and then looked at me in awe.  

Those two little words were enough to make us both cry, and hold each other, and then cry some more.  

Matt was so excited - that night, we both wore the largest smiles anyone has ever had.

So, naturally, we wanted to celebrate!

We went to Carls Jr! 

(they dont have these in most parts of Idaho... the closest one to our house is 2.5 hours away, so it was a great choice of celebratory meals!)

And it was delicious!

That night Matt called the baby his "little buddy" and has called the baby that ever since then.

In the next few days, i called Grandma Lisa and she was so excited, i made her cry at work.

Then i called Auntie Amanda and i made her cry too.

And she was very adamant that i take very good care of myself (love that she cares so much for me) :)

Then i called Grandpa Dan and had to leave a message but he called me back and i was able to tell him too.  He was very happy - he is a man of few words but you could hear the smile in his voice.

Then i called Great Grandma Nina, and she was so excited too.  She also gave me a stern talking to about how i was to rest and not ride horses and not run around with the cows like i normally do.  She sure does love me and i am one lucky lady!  Im so so glad that little baby ingram will get to meet her.  She is incredible.

I called be bff from childhood Des and she was over the moon, she was literally squealing into the phone.  And im pretty sure i could hear her jump up and down.  She is also pregnant, so we are bffs pregnant together... so fun!

I called Grandmomma Valerie and Auntie Chelle too... and they both started crying and were just so happy for us. 

A few days later i finished up my baby registry at Target (that i will admit to starting about 4 months before we started clomid - it was fun to dream) and also started pinning baby stuff like crazy to my secret baby pinterest board.

I had my first craving right around halloween - SALAMI!

Pretty odd for me, i mean i love it and all, but while i was at work i would have bet money that someone walked into the office with salami in their pocket - thats how bad i wanted it... so much so that i could smell it.  As soon as i got off work, i ran to the highly overpriced touristy market and bought salami.  I didnt even wait until i got home before indulging in a piece or two or five.

Needless to say, my husband was more than happy to indulge himself.

You can tell the baby is half Matt - it was loving the salami too.

The next few weeks i had sore boobies (that also grew to size 34B... whoo whoot!), crazy headaches, a nauseous tummy, and lovely acne - all courtesy of increased hormones.

We took my 1 month picture on Halloween. 

I wanted to incorporate daddy into these photos too, so he will be holding the "baby" each picture.

And, to be completely honest, this "orange seed" is actually a green bean seed - all the oranges i had at home were seedless... go figure. 

We of course talked about names, and we like...

Boy: Bodie O'Dell or Bridger Daniel

Girl: Ruby Angelina or Sonora Jo

I had more cravings for fried food, sweet and sour chicken, nina's quesidillas, des's burritos, french fries... pretty much anything cooked in oil, and a LOT of it!

Matt even told me "Um, you know thats bad for you right?!"

I cant help it!!!

The BABY wants it!  The BABY needs it! :)

Ok so i can help it, and i know its bad for me....

But i have a few pounds to spare, so i can indulge in the unhealthy stuff now while I'm trying not to barf at the sound of food.  

Im sure ill thank Matt later when i dont have 80lbs of post baby weight to lose!

OH! and weirdest pregnancy side effect in those early weeks - extra saliva - man i was drooling all over the place... excellent.

My fried food craving soon turned into a carb crazy craving - mac and cheese, ramen noodles, any pasta, and any bread.

I never threw up, but man, any food that wasnt listed above was totally gross...especially salad.

Im still having issues with salad.... im working on it tho.

Grossest side effect of pregnancy in the early weeks??? 

Farts - holy moly, i thought my husbands gas was killer...

apparently i had never been around a pregnant lady! 

I cant even believe that my flatulence is now in the same category as my husbands!

WHAT is WRONG with me?!?

I definitely feel bad for anyone who sat behind me in church, stood behind me in the checkout line, you get the picture....

thank goodness those have passed....

Now, onto the joys of second trimester pregnancy!

Old Wives are CRAZY!

Ok, so I've heard of some crazy old wives tales that are supposed to tell you if you are to have a baby boy or a baby girl.

In our case, a baby Bodie (or Bridger) or a baby Ruby (or Sonora)...

Some are outlandish, others well... Ok so they are all crazy... But how true will they be!?

Here are a few I found online and my results!

1. Are you carrying high or low? 

I'm carrying low, even my OBG was surprised how far under my pelvis my uterus still was. 

Low = BOY!

2. Are you carrying in the front or from side to side?

Definitely to the front, thus why I'm only 15 weeks and my pants just simply will not button!

Front = BOY!

3. Do you have acne?

Ummm YES! And I've never really had it before so I'm not a fan! Although I think it is clearing up! 

Acne = GIRL!

4. Do you have dry hands?

Yes, but then again, it is wintertime in idaho!!! Dry air, wind, frigid temps... Doesn't really scream moisture.

Dry Hands = BOY!

5. Do you have cold feet?

Always, and especially in the winter. See number 4.

Cold Feet = BOY!

6. The ring test: take your wedding ring and hang it above your belly from a piece of string, hair, etc.

If it spins in a circle, it's a girl.  If it rocks side to side, it's a boy.

Mine was like that pirate boat ride at the fair...

Back & Forth = BOY!

7. Is your babies heart rate above or below 140?

First appointment it was 144bpm, last appointment was 156bpm.

HR above 140 = GIRL!

8. Are you craving sweets or salty and sour things?

Let's begin by saying Salt & Vinegar potato chips are the bomb. And we can also add that pizza, popcorn and Fritos are high on the list.  Did I mention Salt & Vinegar chips?!

Salt & Sour = BOY!

9. The Mayan Calendar says that by looking at your age during conception and the year of conception, you can tell the gender.  If they are both even or both odd, it's a girl.  If one is odd and one is even, it's a boy.

I was 26 when I conceived in 2013.

Odd & Even = BOY!

10. The Chinese are also apparent masters of gender prediction.  

They take your birthdate (Y,M,D,time zone) and your date of conception (Y,M,D,time zone) and then tell you what you will have. 

Chinese Gender Prediction

1986/10/23/PST + 2013/10/12/MST = BOY! 

11. Has your hubby gained weight during your pregnancy?

Unfortunately for Matt, we hit Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years so far.... And Valentines still to come! 

Hubby up 10lbs = GIRL!

12. Did you have pretty bad morning sickness? 

I never threw up, and I always just felt better sitting on the couch than cleaning the house... But apparently that doesn't hold a candle to kneeling in front of the porcelain throne.

No morning sickness = BOY!

13. Are you more comfortable sleeping on your left or your right side?

Well, I am usually most comfortable sleeping on my belly, but the whole beach ball phenomenon is making that quite difficult!  I always fall asleep on my back or my left side.

Left side sleeper = BOY!

14. Are you clumsy or dizzy?

Yes... My boss frequently thinks I'm going to faint, but I just stumble a lot or lose my balance. 

Dizzy = BOY!

15. Which boobie is bigger?

Thank goodness they are both bigger!!! My days of wearing a 32A are behind me! (At least for now!) 

However, my left is noticeably bigger, so much so that Matt even noticed.  At least I don't look like this.... 

Left Breast bigger = BOY!

16. Do you have headaches?

Yes! And they are terrible lately! And I know it's not a caffiene headache... Because I've gone 15+ weeks without caffiene. On a side note, can I just say thank you to coca cola for making caffiene free diet coke? 

Headaches = BOY!

17. Are you craving meats and cheeses?

Actually, my very first craving hit at just over 4 weeks into the pregnancy.  Salami, cheese, and crackers.  Needless to say, my hubby was more that pleased to eat his share too :) 

I <3 meat = BOY!

18. The draino test: if you mix draino in with your pee and it changes to a certain color, your supposedly able to tell the sex.

Now... Every website that lists this test also lists that the combination of urine + draino can cause really harsh fumes, that it could even cause an explosion!

I did not try this one... I've seen too many Wile E. Coyote explosions....

So.. Let's recap.

Boy: 14

Girl: 3

Quite a difference in the numbers... Now to wait until July to see if they were true!!!

Of course none of these have any science behind them... A woman carries her baby based on the baby's position or size and based on her tummy muscles prior to pregnancy, any kind of hormonal change can cause skin issues, the fetal heart rate can change minute to minute based on multiple fetal studies, and some ladies just get sick more than others!  But isn't it fun to guess?! :) 

***Discalimer : Matt and I will be happy with a little boy or a little girl.  Whatever baby we are lucky enough to have will fit right in with our family... Whether they want to cowboy or cook, or do both or do neither! We are just excited to meet the little peach!

Did anyone out in the interwebs find these to be true (or false) with their pregnancies?

I'd love to know :) 

UPDATE:

As of July 4th, 2014 we have a baby BOY!

so, looks like the old wives know a thing or two about babies!

My Battle with Cervical Cancer

January is Cervical Cancer Awareness Month. 

Yes, yes, I know, it's not January yet... But Christmas is fastly approaching and soon the new year will arrive!

And when it does, I want you all to remember that the first month of 2014 is Cervical Cancer Awareness Month. 

Why share my story?

Awareness: if my story helps someone get their annual exam or helps someone through their fight, it will be worth it. 

Cervical Cancer is caused by something so common, by the human papiloma virus, better known as HPV. 79 million Americans are currently infected with HPV, with 14 million people become infected every year. The CDC even says that it is so common that almost every sexually active individual will have some form of HPV in their lifetime.  90% of individuals fight off the infection without ever realizing that they have it.  A healthy immune system can fight off HPV in just a few months.  However,  the infections that don't go away can lead to cancer.  In fact, 26,000 American cases of cancer caused by HPV are diagnosed each year. 

Cervical cancer and HPV can be caught early with a yearly womens examination, or a Pap smear.  Every sexually active female should have a Pap smear every year.  Sure, it's uncomfortable.  And yeah, it's embarrassing.  But let me tell you from experience, a 10 minute exam is much easier than having multiple cervical surgeries. Trust me.

HPV is preventable!  Abstinence can prevent HPV 100% of the time (when followed by both partners).  There is also the HPV vaccine, either Cervarix or Gardasil. Both of these vaccines prevent the two cancer causing strains of HPV, strain 16 and 18.  There are more than 40 strains of HPV, some classified as LG low grade and some classified as HG high grade, or cancer causing. Only 4 strains have been tested for a vaccine, but there is more research being done every day.  The vaccine does have side effects, but in my opinion the benefits outweighs the risks.  This vaccine is for girls and boys, as boys can get more rare types of cancer caused by HPV but can also pass along HPV to their female partners if they are infected. 

AND don't forget, girls who get the vaccine should still have annual paps! Early detection is the only way to prevent HPV from causing cervical cancer. 

It's culprit is treatable, but prevention is always better than treatment. 

DISCLAIMER!  This story may be gross at parts... Read with this in mind.

Ok, so on to my story.

In 2009 I had my first abnormal pap. 

I was being seen at a free clinic as I did not have health insurance.  I was in college and this was before the dependent age was changed to 25. I was told that I had HPV, a STI. I was terrified.  I had a STI!? I was disgusted, angry, scared.  My doctor told me that 90% of people my age had it and that it would likely clear on its on and be gone before my next annual.  They told me that I was good to go and that I should come back in one year.  I skeptically left the office, returned to work, and was told by a few of my coworkers that they had been told they had HPV but that it went away, no problem.  I felt a sense of relief, and forgot all about it until my next pap.  

In 2010, I had another abnormal pap.

I was still at the free clinic.  This time, I was told that i would need to have a colposcopy, or a cervical biopsy.  This is a procure where the doctor uses a speculum to inspect the cervix for abnormal changes.  A vinegar solution is normally used on the cervix as it helps show abnormal changes.  If changes are found, the doctor will take a punch biopsy of the area.  This punch biopsy is basically a small core sample of the cervix.  This appointment, I had 4 biopsy areas.  The doctor uses this gel called Monsel's liquid to stop the bleeding.  I watched my doctor go through 4 bottles of this gel... Her face becoming more concerned as she asked for each new bottle.  The colposcopy that was a "simple procedure" had gone from it's allotted 15 minutes to 1 hour.  Once they got the bleeding stopped, I was told I could sit up and that I could get dressed.  I sat up, saw a pool of blood on the floor, and fainted.  My nurse came in to check on me when I didn't answer to her knock, helped me get dressed, and sent me on my way.  I barely made it out to the car.  When I got to my car, I called my dad and asked if he could come give me a ride home.  There was no way I could drive when I had tunnel vision and ringing on my ears.  

About a week later, I received a call from my doctor saying that I had low grade strains of HPV, and that my body just needed "more time" to clear it. 

Looking back, I should've been more proactive, I should've gotten another opinion.  But I didn't have health insurance, I didn't have money, I didn't know what to do.  So I trusted their advice.  I was told to wait another year and it would "likely be gone".

In early 2011, I returned for my 3rd pap since my first abnormal one.  Again, I had HPV.  The doctor wanted to do another colposcopy, and this time I opted to see a specialist.

I found a wonderful doctor in Templeton CA.  He looked over my records from the clinic and agreed that I did need a colposcopy.  I was not happy.  I had a horrible experience with my first one, and I was not about to be calm about another one.  He told me that the procedure would take only 15 minutes, that I would feel minor cramps and that I might have light bleeding.  I told him about my first colposcopy and he promised me that it would be nothing like that.  Luckily, he kept his word.  He took 2 biopsies and an ECC (a sample from the endocervical canal, basically a sample from the deepest part of your cervix) and I was walking out the door in under 15 minutes, as promised.  This man was amazing.

A week later I returned to the office for the results.  I was informed the biopsies came back positive with CIN 1 on my cervix and that my ECC was positive for CIN 2. 

CIN stands for cervical intraepithelial neoplasia, and basically means that there is premalignant changes and abnormal growth in the squamous cells on the cervix.

CIN 1 is mild, effecting 1/3 of the epithelium, the first layer of the cervix.

CIN 2 is moderate, effecting 2/3 of the epithelium. 

My OBG decided that as I had CIN 2, I needed a procedure called a LEEP. 

A week later I had my first LEEP.  

A LEEP, a loop electrosurgical excision procedure, is when a wire loop that has an electric current passing through it is used to cut away effected tissues.  It basically shaves off a layer of your cervix, in my case 15 mm thick. 

I was first given a shot of lidocaine with epinephrine - a block, a numbing agent - directly into my cervix.  This basically made me feel like my heart was going to pound out of my chest.  He explained that the cervix directly absorbs the drugs and that they are very quickly directed to the heart, hence the extreme pounding and racing heart beat.  The shot was very painful, but indeed made me numb to the cutting.  

The procedure wasn't very long, and I had my best friend and hubby in there with me, supporting me every moment. 

About my week later, I returned again for a follow up.  All was healing well.  He discussed that the LEEP is normally very good at clearing CIN 2.  However, if I was still found to have a high grade lesion, I would need another procedure.  

He discussed the possibility of having another LEEP or cryotherapy, which is basically the freezing off of bad cells. 

I was to return in 3 months to get another pap. 

3 months was perfect timing for me... None of this, "let's wait a whole year and see if your body gets rid of it" business....

So, 3 months later I retuned to his office for my pap.

By this time, paps were a walk in the park, they still are.  Love them!  Literally, they saved me... I love them. But I digress...

My pap was done and a week later I returned for the results.

This time, my pap again showed HGSIL (high grade squamous intraepithelial lesions) - the HPV was still there, even after the LEEP. 

My OBG informed me I would need another colposcopy to get more biopsies taken.

He seemed surprised that the LEEP did not rid my cervix of HPV.  I was scared at his concern... 

We again went over the need for another LEEP or cryotherapy, but this visit he also discussed a possible cone biopsy with me.

A cone biopsy is when a scalpel (aka knife) is used to remove a thick cone of tissue from the cervix.

He discussed that if I did indeed have another CIN 2 biopsy, I would likely need this cone biopsy done.

Fabulous.... More surgery.

A few weeks later I had another colposcopy.

This time, the biopsies revealed both CIN 3 and cervical carcinoma - yep, cancer. 

My HPV, treated, had progressed from CIN 1 to cancer in less than 3 years. Unheard of. 

Cervical cancer takes years to form.  HPV takes years to morph into cervical cancer.  

Not in my case.  

Being a newly wed, fertility was a big concern.

Would I be able to have children?

My doctor explained that this was the least fertility harming procedure available for my recent lab results.  If I had already had children and was 35<, the standard procedure with this diagnosis would be a hysterectomy. 

That wasn't an option for us.  But even after this surgery, my chances of having kids would remain decent.  75% of women go on to have normal pregnancies. 

Radiation would only hurt my eggs, creating more fertility problems. 

It was my only option to stay healthy and to preserve my fertility.

Surgery was a go.

I was scheduled for my cone biopsy.  

It was an outpatient surgery done in the surgery center near the hospital.  It took about an hour and a half, and I didn't feel a thing.  The beauty of anesthesia.  

(The not so beautiful part of anesthesia is what you say when you are coming out of it.  I guess I asked every nurse I could find if i could still ride my horse, and I asked the doctor the same question repeatedly.  Everyone got a kick out of it!  I guess it could be worse, I've see some pretty hilarious videos!)

When I awoke, my OBG informed me that the CIN 3 and carcinoma was worse than he thought, and he ended up doing a very large cone.  In fact, it was a cone so large that the surgery was actually coded as a simple trachelectomy, or removal of the cervix.  

The cone had removed 80% of my cervix! 

The only parts that remained were the edges. 

I was chauffeured home by my lovely husband, and slept the rest of the day.

I had very minimal pain and very minimal bleeding.

Picture on the left is the intact female anatomy, picture on the right shows the anatomy after a trachelectomy

At my post op visit, I was told that I was healing well, that the sutures were all in place and holding, and that they would dissolve. 

He also told me that the labs from my surgery were back, and that the 80% removed was riddled with CIN 3 and carcinoma all the way to the margin.  This means, that the cancer spread all the way to the edges of what he had cut.  He explained that this could mean the he might have left some cancer behind.

Gulp.

However in good news, the ECC was negative. So the deepest part of my cervix was still healthy, which meant good things for the future health of my uterus, ovaries, etc. 

I was to have a pap in 4 months.  He again told me the possibility of having another abnormal pap due to the margins. If I was found to have CIN 2 or 3 or carcinoma, I would have need another LEEP. 

In March of 2012, I arrived for my pap.

My OBG decided to do a pap and a colpo just to be safe and to get it all done at once.

He took 3 biopsies and an ECC. 

A week later, I returned for my results.

To his amazement and mine, the results were normal!

No pathology, no changes, no HPV, no CIN, no carcinoma, no cancer!

It was gone!

He did tell me that there was a slight possibility that all the scar tissue could hide the HPV, but that the results were very promising that it was gone.

Thank you Jesus, what a blessing! 

I didn't need another pap for 6 months!

He had cured me.  Him and God of course.

6 months later my pap was normal.

6 months after that my pap was again normal.

And both of my paps in 2013 were normal.

With 4 normal paps, I have even been put back on the "annual exam"!!!!!

It was a long process, a scary process, especially with my fertility in mind, but we made it through.

I have been cervical cancer free since March of 2012! 

Yes, I have had fertility problems since then. 

My OBG instructed us to begin trying for kids as soon as we were ready because we would likely require extra time. Even extra help.

Matt was ready right away, so we began.

And I'm so glad we did, because it took 2 years of trying to conceive for my doc to start us on fertility treatments. 

The path ahead of us is still bumpy, but I am healthy! I am alive!

this is a group of women who have all had a trachelectomy to treat their cervical cancer - all women who went on to have these perfectly healthy babies! 

What have I learned from all of this?

I have learned that nothing is worth risking contracting HPV.  If I could do it all over again, I would definitely wait until marriage to have sex.  Not only is it something that would be wonderful to share only with your lifelong partner, but if doing so would have spared me from getting cervical cancer, I would've been all in!

I discovered that when your 18, you don't think that anything you do will affect your future marriage, your possibility of having a family.  I wish I would've been aware of the consequences of my actions.

The HPV vaccine came out in 2006, and at that time, they were only suggesting it to young women under 19. I was 20, so my general practitioner said that I was not a candidate.  

There is really nothing I could've done to get the shot... It wasn't given to girls my age. 

Now, they are giving the vaccine to girls ages 13-26. 

Obviously, this disease was in Gods plan for me.

I was supposed to fight this, and I was supposed to win.

My husband and I were supposed to conquer this together.

And we did. 

I hope that by writing this, someone might read it and decide they need to get their pap done.

Someone might decide that they will get the vaccine, or that they will give it to their daughters. 

And mainly, I hope that you are now more aware of the danger that HPV can be.

I hope that you are more aware of cervical cancer, and that you will support it's research and it's campaign every January.  

I wear teal because I fight like a girl.

I won this battle, and I support all the women fighting it now. 

In January, wear teal with me, and help prevent your mother, your sister, or your daughter from having to fight this fight. 

You're a DICK and I hate you...

This is a crazy world that we live in.

It's not fair and it's not just and it's a sad sad place at times. 

My sister and brother-in-law once owned an amazing business called Seasons of Hope. 

This was a facility serving the mentally ill and the developmentally delayed.

Providing speech therapy, occupational therapy, physical therapy, family and individual counseling, psychosocial rehabilitation, developmental therapy, etc....

In March of 2013, Seasons of Hope was shut down buy the Department of Health and Welfare due to charges of fraud.  They received a letter stating that they could no longer see patients, that they would not be receiving checks owed to them, and that they had to pay back almost $500,000 in recoupment/fines. 

They had to shut down 9 offices that day.  They had to let go all of their 100+ employees.  They had to turn away patients who were waiting in their offices for therapy sessions. 

They were charged with ridiculous fraud charges with no warning.

They had passed every single Medicaid audit since they opened. 

Medicaid gave them absolutely no warning, no hint that anything they were doing was incorrect.

If they were filing claims wrong, or storing information in an incorrect manner, nothing was ever said. 

They spent countless all-nighters preparing documents for the court case.  Documents that were allegedly missing or nonexistent according to Health and Welfare, documents that were actually perfectly filed away in their charts. 

Once the court process began, it took 9 days of deliberation for the judge - who was appointed by Medicaid - to come to his decision.  

In July 2013, he dismissed ALL charges of fraud, reinstated their provider status and reduced their fines from $500,000 to just under $100,000.

Well, the department of health and welfare appealed the judges decision.

The appeal went to none other than the director of the department of health and welfare, DICK Armstrong. Pun intended. 

So now, the ruling that was determined by a judge that the department hand picked was going to be overruled and put in the hands of the director of the department... Because apparently we live in Stalingrad. 

Of course, DICK ruled in favor of his office, removed seasons of hope provider status once again, and added more than $150,000 in fines/penalties.

My sister and my BIL will of course appeal this ridiculous ruling, this time at the state level.

First off.... How is it legal that Health & Welfare appealed it and then had their own director rule on it?! 

That is absurd... I mean, of course the dick, I mean of course Dick is going to rule in favor of his office!!!

Second off, Dick and his buddies put an immeasurable amount of stress and anxiety on patients who are already fragile, who are already dealing with enough.

People afflicted with troubling notions of suicide, depression, Down syndrome, autism, etc were overnight without therapy, without the working, helping relationships that were 3+ years in the making! 

Thirdly, they took this business that took over 10 years to get off the ground and disintegrated it in a matter of days.  All 9 offices had to shut down.  All employees were let go.  Even if the Dick hadn't overturned it, they had lost all their clients, all their therapists and counselors, everything.  The name Seasons of Hope which was once a sought after clinic was now tarred and feathered. They had no business left to reopen even if they were granted the ability to do so. Not to mention the difficulty that any administrative employee would find in their job search, having the word "fraud" attached to their resume. 

Since then, SOH filed bankruptcy.

They have had to - they have been fighting this, day and night, since March, with no income and no help.  They had no choice. 

But they have lost so much more than a business in this fight.

My sis and BIL have 8 children.  4 of them are special needs.

Angleman syndrome, autism, learning disabled.  These are not terms that are just used in their previous business, but more personally in their home. 

These 4 kids were receiving therapy and counseling at SOH.  They were thriving.  They were learning new skills, they were given new opportunities. 

Since the dismemberment of SOH I've watched them regress, I've watched them struggle with things that were once so easy and so routine. The kids are now in California and are picking up the pieces of their broken treatment plans, and are moving forward. 

My two oldest nephews 

My youngest nephew

My sis and the three oldest girls 

The BIL himself and the baby

The last little niece :)

This is a tragedy.

It is a horrible disgrace to our society.

DICK Armstrong should have had to tell every employee that they no longer could work for SOH.

DICK should have had to tell each child that they would no longer be able to play with their therapists.

DICK should have had to tell each patient that their counseling was terminated, that they would get no closure session, no final words of help, no goodbye, nothing. 

DICK will need to step off his high horse and will soon realize that he will lose, that the department is not going to win this.  That this is NOT over.  That Seasons of Hope still has hope, that they will not quit fighting. 

And through all this, my sister and her family are hanging on.

They are making do, they are weathering this fierce storm.

All I wish is that they can have a peaceful Christmas.

That they will not worry about what will happen with this court case.

That they will be able to find an employer who will give them a chance and look past the scarlet letter F they carry with them on their job applications. 

That they can just enjoy the holiday. 

I wish so badly for that... And I can do so Iittle to help them. 

Will you please pray for my sister, my brother in law, my 3 nephews and my 5 nieces.

Please keep them in your thoughts and pray that they can have the Christmas that they oh so surely deserve.